This is a guest post from Nisha Shah.
Feeling good makes us happy. What makes you feel good? That’s a simple enough question, right…anything chocolate, a highly productive day, sunshine, getting a great deal when shopping, a good hair day? Women know who their all reliable BFF’s are and we like to feel good and be our happiest selves. Feeling good even tops looking good for women, although we know these two are in bed together. Speaking of…recently we learned that there is now a new little ‘pink pill’ on the market to make us feel even that kind of good!
In today’s world, however, being happy sometimes feels like it’s own part-time job. There are happiness bestsellers we need to read, online art of happiness courses to take and of course, every magazine is telling us how to raise happy kids, have happy workplaces, and happy homes. I’m not knocking any of these as I readily admit to doing all of the above. Reality seems to get in the way of our happiness plans and we seek strategies and support to get us back on track to living happily ever after. However, could that actually be part of our happiness and feeling good problem? That we are looking externally to determine our own very personal versions of happiness? Could the media, the people in our environments, society in general have more control of our happiness destiny than we do?
Women, for the most part, know what makes them happy and what doesn’t. We just aren’t as good about vocalizing and acting on that knowledge. What gets in the way of our happiness and feeling good? What takes us to our dark side, which we know is not our best look? Unsupportive relationships, over-scheduled days, poor sleep, taking care of everyone before ourselves? Once we know what takes us there, then we know how to prevent going down that path. Just as we take steps to avoid heart disease and cancer, we can take action to avoid the triggers that contribute to bringing out the Darth Vader within us. It’s much easier to try to avoid these states of being rather than trying to change ourselves in the moment. Know what’s on your black list. Awareness is your secret weapon and your most effective tool to getting to happy and staying there.
At the same time, we also want to know what exactly can get us to our happy place fast…a great glass of wine, a deep belly laugh with our girlfriends, getting outside for a walk in the sunshine, a juicy hug from a loved one? Make a happy list to use as your go-to for those tough days to nip negative feelings before they plant their seed within you. As we all know, it’s much tougher to pull weeds once they are rooted than it is to prevent them. Your happy list can guide you back to the place you were hoping to be in the first place…feeling good!
Nisha R. Shah, MPH, RD is an author, lifestyle expert and founder of Urban Serenity, a lifestyle services company. She is a registered dietitian, fitness, and stress professional and will be presenting on July 1st at the ************